The Reality of Getting Uncomfortable to Succeed


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Vision Letters

This makes no sense...

I am the last person you would pick to be a network marketer.

I actually dread and loathe networking.

I am a shy, introverted only child who has never worked a retail job or anything related to sales.

I can learn a new language in a matter of months, but I am completely clueless about marketing or ad copy.

I do not want to approach anyone to tell them about my product. I'd rather not call anyone on the phone.

What the heck am I doing in this industry?

Why am I here??

Vision Letters
Vision Letters

Why? Because life isn't about my comfort. I have a vision for my life that is bigger than what I can accomplish by staying comfortable.

In his book "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind", T. Harv Eker says that the goal of the middle class is to be comfortable, but "If you want to move to a new level in your life, you must break through your comfort zone and practice doing things that are not comfortable."

So here I am, ready to get uncomfortable so I can take my business and my life to the next level!

Again, why?  (Side note - ask why!!  Ask it all the time!  Remember your reasons!  It's essential to know your "why"!)

Why is this worth it?

Because I want freedom!

Because I have two little girls who fill my heart with joy, and I want to spend as much time with them as possible.  Because I want to spend my days having adventures with my best friend Joshua.  Because there's a world full of new cultures, experiences, and languages that I am dying to see.

Because I want to grow into a leader who can help others find their freedom to achieve their dreams.  Because there are millions of people in the world held hostage in heartbreaking situations of slavery and trafficking, and I want to have the means to make a difference, to bring freedom and healing to lives.

Because I want to show my girls that they can have the life they want.

Because staying comfortable is the easy way out and is the sure ticket to crushing my soul.  Because I've had the American dream of the nice house in a beautiful location, and I know that's not enough.

Our family at Stanford commencement
Our family at Stanford commencement

I had the privilege of being at Stanford's 2013 commencement ceremony last weekend, and speaker Michael Bloomberg gave the perfect synopsis of the American dream: “The secret of success isn’t much of a secret. It’s just that many people look for an easier way, a shortcut to be found because they mistakenly think of the American Dream as a destination to be reached.  The American Dream has no shortcuts – and no end point. It’s is the freedom you have to chart your own journey – and through hard work, to find professional success and personal fulfillment."

Stop looking back

I have to be honest with you, I was going to work in a section here about what staying comfortable would look like for me.  I was going to take a look backward at my time working for the government and the sheer misery of that job for me, but what's the point?  You know what being comfortable looks like in your own life.  We've all been there.  We've settled for the 9-to-5, for minivans and soccer games and two weeks of vacation to the same beach every year.  Yuck!  What a drag to spend our energy thinking about all that!

Keep your eyes on the prize

Dream Board
Dream Board

Let's keep looking forward!  What motivates you?  Do you want to take cooking classes in Italy?  Do you want to spend a month in Bali, opening your door and stepping onto a beautiful beach with perfect waves?  Or maybe buy that house on the river and spend your days fishing?  Whatever it is that gets you excited, latch on to that.  Remind yourself of it every morning when you get up!  Put pictures and quotes on your walls, bathroom mirror, phone wallpaper, computer background… everywhere!

Let's get real...

So here's the deal... I believe everything I've written above.  But I know it's not that easy.  This isn't a path ahead of us filled with rainbows and unicorns and sunshine.  There's a lot of hard work.  There's heartbreak.  There's setbacks.  I'm writing this in a coffee shop at 9:30 pm, while my two angels are at home.  My heart aches to be with them, but I know that to have that ideal life with them, I have to make some sacrifices right now.

How was my evening up until this point?  Pretty awful, thanks for asking.  I held a webinar that completely bombed.  I didn't prepare enough for it, and I was too shy/stubborn to reach out to others to help me with it.  I ended the webinar feeling pretty dismal.  I feel like it's just another way that I've tried to step out, stretch myself, and put effort into this, that hasn't worked.  I've had a lot of those moments recently.  It feels like I can't make a door open for me to save my life.  And I'm so tired of it.  Have you been there?  Are you there now?

There's always hope

ChristopherReeveHopeQuote
ChristopherReeveHopeQuote

I desperately want to give you the solution, to give you three exact steps that you can take that will remedy everything and put you on your perfect path to success.  But I can't do that yet.  I'm not there yet.  But what I do have is a completely ridiculous level of optimism.  I may be bummed out right now, but it will be very short-lived.  I have an undying belief that there is always hope, that good things are ahead.  I completely believe that things will work out, for me and for you... for us!

So let's look at this from a new angle… some doors may not have blown open the way I wanted them to, but I haven't knocked on every door. And I'm completely guilty of not taking advantage of the resources and relationships that I've been blessed with.  So I'm going to try new tactics until I figure out how to make this work.  I can study copy, ask someone to host a webinar with me, shoot more videos, write more blogs, and keep going until I discover the system that is right for me, the one that gives me the ability to achieve my dreams.

Join me maybe?

I hope that you'll join me in this journey.  Follow my efforts, setbacks, and successes on www.JoshuaAndKristy.com and Facebook.com/JoshuaAndKristy.  Personally friend request me - Facebook.com/CaliKristy .  And don't just be a silent observer - let's chat, let's build systems together, let's create freedom!

I am SO ready to do this already!  Let's live our passions and bless others in the process!

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